I read this in a book today. And then I re-read it. And I read it again. It's so lovely and it will only make sense to you when you hit rock bottom...and the only thing to get you out...is kindness. How did she capture it so perfectly? Truly, the poet is a prophet, a vessel of the gods...there is something divine and I know, I just know why the top of Emily Dickinson's head falls off....spinning, spinning, spinning....
By Naomi Shihab Nye
Before you know what kindness really is
you must lose things,
feel the future dissolve in a moment
like salt in a weakened broth.
What you held in your hand,
what you counted and carefully saved,
all this must go so you know
how desolate the landscape can be
between the regions of kindness.
How you ride and ride
thinking the bus will never stop,
the passengers eating maize and chicken
will stare out the window forever.
Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness,
you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho
lies dead by the side of the road.
You must see how this could be you,
how he too was someone
who journeyed through the night with plans
and the simple breath that kept him alive.
Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.
Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day to mail letters and
purchase bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
it is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you everywhere
like a shadow or a friend.
Been there, done that, gracious...
ReplyDeleteI wish there was a magic button that would be pressed at random once per year, that made every single person (willing or not) an empath for a period of 30 days. Everything you caused another person to feel, physically or emotionally, you yourself would have to endure. Given a few centuries of this, I can only think we'd be better for it. Kindness would then be the rule, and not the exception. Sigh.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't access the first link (apparently it's blocked in Malaysia) but I did the second...I'm curious..what exactly did you do? Allow someone to vampire on you?
ReplyDeleteIf people became empaths, most of them would rush screaming into traffic. Haven't you ever just breathed in a situation and tuned in...and after a while tuned out again because there was way too much pain, and it had become unbearable?
Wish I had a proxy for you, that first one was the video for Sarah Mclachlan's song Sweet Surrender and it pretty well illustrates how it feels to be absolutely flat out--that moment of dawning comprehension, when you come to understand that the world turns on kindness.
ReplyDeleteThe second one is almost hard for me to watch, but I have often sought (and occasionally found) acceptance and understanding in the hearts of people whose behaviour was completely at odds with my own sense of ethics...
Heh, I have this mental image of the people in traffic screeching to a halt and throwing their doors open, as they run screaming for the safety of nearby apartments... only to cross paths with the apartment dwellers, who run screaming for the ready oblivion of the once-moving traffic... Maybe we'll put off installing that magic button for another year, yeah? :-)